• SCB@lemmy.world
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    Idk I'm a married dude nearing 40 who is on dating sites a fair amount (it's cool so is my wife), and I'm a pretty average guy all-around, and it doesn't seem like this hellscape you paint it as. I have everything possible stacked against me for online dating, and I consistently get what I'm looking for.

    Yeah there are lots of crazies, but that's because crazy people exist, and you'd run into them in more traditional dating too. Check out any romcom from the 90s and there'll likely be a montage of crazies.

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      I am glad that online dating works out for you my friend. Don't wanna offend you but we are talking about young people. you turning 40 means you are middle aged. The customers of Tate and similar assholes are mostly under 30 years.

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        I regularly speak with women in their late 20s. My cutoff is 26 so I avoid people my daughter knows.

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      If you're on sites specializing in ENM that's probably why, niche enough that the bots and toxic algo practices haven't descended upon them yet

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        If there are ENM sites with people on them I'd love a link. I mainly stick to Tinder and Bumble because Feeld hasn't been adopted in my area.

        Very open to suggestions tho.

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          Feeld has been really good for me compared to other apps. Im a relatively vanilla fellow but the culture around communication is stronger there and the results have been good. And Ive only been using it for single dating so far.

          Hope it rolls out for you soon because it has been a refreshing experience

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            I really like Feeld, it's just that there's near-zero adoption here. I keep semi-active on it in the hopes the user number keeps growing tho!