To be born a woman but since that’s not possible it would be that my transition works fast and well.
To be happy. Depression is hell.
To retire. I’m not even 40 yet but I dread going to work every morning. I don’t even hate my work - I just don’t feel like even the relatively good salary I get is enough to compensate for the lost time.
I think I know what you mean. I’ve hit a phase where time spent at work feels like wasted time, since it’s not time I got to spend doing something I wanted to be doing. Which is really contrary to the usual philosophy that time not spent money is wasted.
I’ve switched jobs gone back to school etc, but no matter what once something becomes a mandatory routine that time feels like a waste. I’m starting to really value and cherish the seconds I actually have control over.
This feeling gets worse when you realize that the time we have is a limited, non-renovating and exhaustible resource. We give this away for money over and over until we run out. Depressing as fuck.
To go back to sleep for another few hours
To be able to live a simple life of relative comfort that’s not filled with the constant worry that people more rich/powerful than me are going to fuck up my life in ways I can imagine and other ways I can’t.
Just lay on my bed all day browsing the internet. I hope I could have such a life
Gummi bears.
I’d like to know what to do next. I’m at a juncture in my career - my current gig is dragging me down, and I think I kinda maneuvered myself into a disadvantageous position.
Since forever, I’ve been a developer, sometimes leading small teams, sometimes working in committees on data interchange formats for the industry sector. Two years ago, I had the opportunity for a position as enterprise architect in a large corporation. Truth is, I still just have theoretical knowledge of what I’m supposed to be doing and feel like I’m floundering pretty bad. And corporate life is sucking out the joy in my life - so much time spent asking around what to do to adhere to process. But on the other hand, I am doing quite well financially.
Building things gives me joy - even if it’s just doing a little optimization to shave off a few milliseconds off a database request. Sitting in meetings and going over spreadsheets is not joyful. It’s been so long since I’ve been in the zone editing code. Generally, it’s been about 3 years since I’ve been coding. I’ve been considering going back, but I have no idea how to spin it in interviews - and my coding skills are dead.
Walking again would be nice.
I take my wish back and instead wish you get to walk again too
Thanks. It’s been three years and I miss it. I’ll be pretty happy just to get back to hobbling with a cane.
…I think we both have a long ways to go until retirement. Maybe a career change is in order?
What happened if I may ask?
And yeah you’re probably right. I’ve been wanting to try start my own company of one for a long time, but I’m just too scared to step out of my comfort zone despite life giving me great opportunities to switch and I’m once again staring at one in the face right now.
I have Charcot’s. So far we’ve managed to keep my legs attached but they’re in rough shape.
I know it can be scary but sometimes you just have to take the leap. Years ago I moved across the country with just what I could fit in my car and it ended up being the best decision of my life. It could go wrong or it could be the smartest thing you’ve ever done. You won’t know unless you try.
Man that’s rough… It’s really hard to appreciate things we take for granted untill it’s taken away. I really feel for the blind and people unable to walk. I couldn’t imagine having to go thru that myself. It really is things that just happens to other people and not me untill it does. I hope future medicine and science has an ace up in its sleeve to help people like you.
Sleep
Socialism and stability. I want to persue my passions without needing to devote half of my waking hours to a job (which all are incredibly mentally draining for me), and without fear of not having my basic needs met, and I want everyone else to have the same opportunity. A job should be supplimental if people choose to work, which many will, as they feel it gives them purpose.
A post-scarcity society and the death of corruption would be cool too.
Yeah it’s always strange to me that most people are working class yet most people are so allergic to the idea of socialism, thanks Russia
P r o p a g a n d a
Also the history of centralized control over industry hasn’t worked out too well. I’m more of the Richard Wolff philosophy of democracy over the workplace, along with a very strong social safety net, including, but not limited to a UBI that is enough for people to comfortably live on.
Huummm… thanks Russia? And not the CIA? Why would Russia be responsible for people hating socialism?
Well whatever, the whole Soviet thing didn’t really go very well
It ended really badly, but how did it not go very well during it? Honest question here.
It devolved into authoritarianism with Stalin.
Authoritarianism doesn’t really mean much. And according to the US (through the CIA) itself, Stalin-era USSR was more democratic than appeared in western media.
https://www.cia.gov/readingroom/docs/CIA-RDP80-00810A006000360009-0.pdf
But in any case, even if that was the case, it wasn’t “authoritarian” after Stalin. Like y’know, most countries after WW2 (not just Italy and Germany btw. Or people forget Churchill and FDR, and the “war economies”? The internment camps, jailing of “political dissidents” etc. etc.).
To not have to work another day in my life. Sure I could say to be excessively wealthy but I’m happy with satisfying basic needs and living in my simple home. All I want is to be able to wake up every day without the crushing burden of having to keep a job that keeps the spectre of starvation and homelessness away for another few days.
A work-life balance honestly. I’ve been working 12s every day this year and I’m missing out on my hobbies and my family. Financially I’m fine, but I’m gearing up for an early retirement so I don’t know if I can slow down now. So hard to make time for things I actually enjoy now. Basically just want to hit that balance so I have a fulfilling life.
Without knowing the background: that sounds very dangerous. What’s the point of early retirement if you’re completely worn out?
Well a lot of the time those 12 hr shifts are involuntary. I work in a manufacturing plant and they basically dictate your life. Shiftwork is killer too
That my country would stop being so god damn stupid.
Can I ask what country?
Sweden
What’s stupid there?
3 things.
- increased right wing politics including fucking nazies and racistw being the second largest party now… yay/s
- we had a large amount of immigration that becouse it wassent handeled correctly a.i. actual programs for integration, lack of said social security … there are now larger wealth gaps and seperations in sweden that ever in 40 years.
- our social security is increasingly privitized and it is frustrating af. I am well off ill be fine, but it frustrates me sincr thease kind of wellfare sytems (substedies, helthcare, schools …) help reduce crime, and make people happier but no… lets just increase punishments and make sure that ritch comunites are safe and fuck upp the poor…
Well, it’s +/- the same for all Western Europe I guess. I’m from France and we also witness our then really strong public services getting weaker and weaker. Privatisation and less stated owned, leaning a bit towards the (beware, hot take) fucked up US system.
Regarding immigration, we do have a problem here : people coming to France can’t be welcomed in good conditions. We must either stop or reduce it (right wing answer) or invest way more than we do now to welcome them more decently (left wing answer). But something needs to be done indeed.
To be calm. I’m in a constant state of panic. I don’t know what to do because the pills aren’t really working… I have awfully bad anxiety.
I hope this doesn’t come across as patronizing but have you tried vipassana or a similar style of meditation? My wife had really severe anxiety and she found this to be the thing that helped her the most.
