• People be on there talking about how they love to go hiking every evening to watch the sunset on top of a mountain in the next state over before coming home and getting ready for their standup yoga meeting at 6 in the morning when all I want to do is come home, order a pizza, and turn on the tube. Get real.

  • @Lamb@lemmy.zip
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    178 months ago

    Grindr is simpler. No one asks for my hobbies.

    I personally like men and video games.

    • WashedOver
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      I was always envious of my gay buddies and their ability to just get it on and not deal with the traditional female vetting process even for hook ups.

      There were some good parody videos on the differences between early Tinder and Grinder dates highlighting them.

      Then I noticed most have the common story that there is no one decent to date locally despite all their good friends being gay.

      The only good ones are out of town or far away across the country. Not sure where it is now but I'm still envious if no matter how hard they try to get pregnant, there isn't the risk of 20 to life from being truly successful…

      • @Lamb@lemmy.zip
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        58 months ago

        Gay men may have much higher standards than straight women and if you want to date you may have trouble, even a lot, depending on your age (which also will affect hookup potential). There's also sexual compatibility. Your good gay friends may be of same position. Or you may simply not be attracted to each other. The gay friends I had were both same position and unattractive to me. Straight people commenting on how we should get together just because we're both gay made me very uncomfortable.

        • WashedOver
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          That's a great point. Often straight guys have lower standards and I was looking at it from that viewpoint. Women often complain most men see all of them as a potential sexual partner and I'm not sure if they are wrong in a lot of cases.

          Still I wonder really there is no one in the whole city, province, or country that is a match? The smaller pool is something I should factor in though if I'm being fair.

          In addition most of my relationships have been with people not originally from the area but neither am I.

  • @teuast@lemmy.ca
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    The person I've started seeing from Hinge in recent days told me that the biggest reason she rolled with my profile was because I seemed like I was "relatively normal" and not a techbro or finance bro. Apparently this is prevalent enough around here that for someone who's not into it, a profile that features a dad joke about the members of punk and metal bands standing really far apart because "your band width determines your speed," offers "Live Without at an abandoned Denny's in Houston" as an option for a past event to time travel to, and lists "worker ownership of the means of production" as a "simple pleasure" qualifies you as "normal."

    But hey, that in turn means I'm not attracting the kinds of girls who go for techbros, which I see as an absolute win.

    • @shalafi@lemmy.world
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      48 months ago

      My dating profiles got a lot of attention. I'll give you guys a tip:

      Go onto the site as a woman looking for a man and read the other guy's profiles. MAKE YOURS DIFFERENT.

      • gimpchrist
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        Man, what profiles? It’s all ‘I will fill this out later’ or ‘ATVs Hunting Fishing and driving’.

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    Is loves to laugh still a big one? 10 years back it was fairly common.

    When I thought about it, no matter how good or evil one is laughing must be fun.

    Laughing about a light hearted joke or a local orphanage burning down, laughing would be an extension of what brings them joy?

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    The Colorado version is this plus pictures of themselves skiing/snowboarding (even if they really only go like once a year and especially if they just moved here a couple years ago).

    • The Barto
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      My app won't work properly so I can't see who liked me so message me.

      *messages them*

      Unread forever.