the software is not an alpha. As a platform I use it just as much as I used to use Reddit and usually it's much faster, more enjoyable and not profit driven.

That's because you're only seeing it from the eyes of a user. Talk to any admin of a big instance and you'll see how inadequate it is. Or just head over to Beehaw, they have made some very detailed statements on how much of a nightmare Lemmy is, and on the current bleak state of development.