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I think this might want a clean sheet design. At least as I understand it, there are issues with privacy in the fediverse/activitypub vis-a-vis non-public messages. I think it’s also an area where, in order to go the most good, you’d want simple signups and easy engagement (to say nothing of being able to trust that your info has been deleted when you delete it).

Clearly, I’m here and I value the philosophical underpinnings of the fediverse, but I think it might not be the best fit for dating.

That said, if you feel like you can solve those problems, you’d be doing a world of good if you’re right.

Nonprofit versions of vital social tech. If I had the money sitting around, I’d love to start a nonprofit dating site/app. I met my wife on OKC in 2011 before it got bought up and enshittified. It was great and wasn’t geared toward just keeping you engaged (they’re soooooo bad now!). You’d probably have to gatekeep it with a small fee to disincentive bots, but with a relatively small investment, you could create something really useful for folks without preying on anyone’s desperation.

Signal would be a good model for this sort of thing.

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Racknerd via the coupon @ Low end box.

The full price is like $24/yr, so even if it goes up, meh.

I’m a big fan of cheap (as in ~$10/yr vps) and reverse proxy over wireguard. My home ip isn’t exposed and I’m able to quickly spin new containers up by updating my reverse proxy config and adding a wireguard peer.

I keep two VPSs- one as reverse proxy for all my miscellaneous services and another solely for email. The latter port forwards raw traffic over wireguard to my email server container. That way, even if the VPS gets compromised, my personal data remains secure.

I end up paying ~ $30/yr (+ whatever I’m paying in electricity) for domain + VPS. It’s a bit more involved than tailscale, etc, but I’m willing to put in a little extra work to make sure I’m not at the mercy of some company getting up to some rent-seeking bullshit.

I agree with respect to the low likelihood of changing one’s old posts being effective in preventing their being used as training data. I’d assume, however, that those who are motivated to “vandalize” (itself a loaded term to refer to altering one’s own words) their old posts have more than one motive; in addition to inconveniencing humans, doing so devalues reddit as a place to find information and, in theory, punishes reddit for their actions, maybe even deters others from behaving similarly.

This a situation where I think that maybe a shared distaste/disdain for “slacktivism” leads to folks discouraging potentially effective collective action in one of the limited contexts where online protest has a chance of having any effect.

Same here. There’s plenty I might like to change here and there in life, but absolutely nothing on this front. Celebrating 11 years in a few weeks, best decision I ever made.

Now, the first time… Well, second time’s the charm, it would seem.

The only option that fits your budget today I can think of would be picking up one of the old xeon combos off of AliExpress. I spent like $100 on a MB+CPU+64GB DDR4 combo with a 2880 v4 I think. 14c/28t at any rate. You can probably grab a case/power supply/video card used for under $50 on eBay.

Please note that I’m not saying that this is a good option; it took a lot of fiddling for me to get mine running smoothly. But if you’ve got more time and patience than money, it might work for you.

In addition to all the other reasons offered re: functional analogy, many of the aviation terms themselves come from naval / boating / sea-faring. Pilot is a good example, previously having been used in the sense of “riverboat pilot,” etc.

Inexplicable.

Racknerd has VPSs starting at around $10/yr. Been using them to host my email/nextcloud/jellyfin proxies for a while now with no issues or unexpected downtime. They don’t have any of Linode’s advanced features, but they’re pretty hard to beat price-wise.

Link to their coupon page

The only tablet that immediately comes to mind is the Pinetab. For just reading books and satisfying your ethical requirements and running Linux, I imagine it would do the trick.

One issue I’ve had in some networks is that wg will connect, but not receive any traffic from the network. You can try to set up a static route for your wg subnet pointing at your wg server’s local IP.

No idea if that’s your issue though.

I use a wireguard tunnel and port forwarding from a vps to a mailinabox instance serving mail for my various domains. If you have your SPF/DKIM/rDNS set up correctly, it’s not too bad with respect to management and mail delivery, plus you don’t have to trust anyone with your data. As far as other mail servers are concerned, your VPS IP is the only IP they see. I pay $10/yr for the VPS

I’m also a trans woman, FWIW. Lord knows I have feelings on all sorts of political topics. I’m not a fan of my existence being a political football. But, I don’t interject my political beliefs apropos of nothing or use them as a substitute for having a personality. (Which, to be abundantly clear, I am not accusing you or anyone else of). I’m not suggesting that folks shouldn’t be passionate- quite the opposite. It’s just that it’s unhealthy/incredibly grating and sad when I interact with people who have nothing in their life besides party politics. I think it makes our lives less rich, divides us from our fellow humans, and creates stress around things the average person has absolutely no control over.

Yes, the world is fraught and our politics is fucking broken. I choose, however, to be active where I believe I can have an impact and otherwise try to embrace joy/enable and share in the joy of others. To allow oneself to be consumed by all the demagoguery is an act of submission; joy, including queer joy, is an act of defiance.

Perhaps the world is going to shit, perhaps it isn’t. I have no control over it though and I refuse to make myself miserable and let fear consume my life. ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

I’m fine with folks with strong political convictions. The thing that gets me is the viewing of literally everything through the lens of reductive party politics combined with the belief that anyone who disagrees is an idiot or a monster.

Good to know. Thanks.

Are there distro-specific issues? I’ve always just downloaded the zip and run the installer with no issues.

In addition to all of the open source options that have been offered, Davinci Resolve runs well on Linux and has all of the above features (and many, many more). It’s also a buy once keep forever situation rather than a subscription since they make their real money on hardware. OSS it isn’t, but it’s incredibly powerful, has an extensive free (as in beer) edition and beats the hell out of paying a monthly fee.

I second this. I use a couple of dirt cheap VPSs from racknerd ($24/yr for 1 CPU/512Mb ram, but you can find coupons online to get them for $10/yr 1CPU/768mb ram) one does port forwarding over wireguard to my mail server so I can keep all my data in house, the other hosts an NGINX reverse proxy for all my web services. Works great. I use the reverse proxy for nextcloud and jellyfin for myself and 6 other users. Never had an issue. (Well, never had an issue I didn't cause myself at any rate.)

It's a little harder to set up than some of the other suggestions, but it's cheap, fully transparent to users, and doesn't expose your home network to the outside world.