Either:
Pick one and I hope whatever you pick works for both of you. Agreement is easy, but teasing can be fun.
Moreover, once you’re accustomed to thinking in these terms, it becomes safer to start with a boolean, because the refactoring path is clear: replace boolean with 2-value enumeration, then expand from there.
Post a topic such as this in a discussion forum, then monitor the discussions that follow.
That is hard. If the manager is likely to side with her, then that limits your options considerably. In that case, if you truly need this job, then put your head down, persist, and let this delightful woman be wrong.
“Sure.” And then don’t do it. Over and over.
I’m sorry that you’re dealing with this. It’s not you; it’s them. I suspect you’re wonderful and I’m sorry that your employer doesn’t recognize that.
Peace.
If she can report you for being 5 minutes late, what stops you from reporting her when she leaves early? I’m not criticizing you, but rather genuinely asking what’s in the way.
If “Go fuck yourself” is not your style or otherwise inadvisable, then another option is to start with “You will not call me that. You will call me by my name. Thank you.” Say this as calmly and evenly as you can. Keep saying it. Don’t let her rattle you into straying from this.
If she insists, then pick a name to call her and insist on it no matter how much she objects. I doubt I need to suggest such a name, but rather I trust you to engage your creativity.
Even so, I don’t have any objection to “go fuck yourself” if you think that wouldn’t put your job in jeopardy.
Good luck. Peace.
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Careful! I’m not trying to be Ticketmaster!
If you are dissatisfied with the free thing I gave you, then I am happy to send you a refund of your purchase price. 🤷♂️
That’s my preferred strategy.
UPDATE: Before any angry cards and letters, let me clarify. When I reply this way, I learn a lot about the person I’m talking to, including whether they are prepared to have a reasonable conversation about this complex matter. The response I’m hoping for is “Well played.”, because that tells me that they recognize how ridiculous we are both being. I can work with them.
If they are merely having a tough time and needed to vent, then they’ll notice that and we can move forward.
If they are truly that entitled, then I don’t mind what happens next, because they would probably never have accepted any help I could offer them, anyway.
I have just recently chosen to revive it. I’m not really sure why. I presume it’s a matter of arbitrary fashion either way.
Collect what you’re owed as soon as you can. Pay what you owe as late as you can.
UPDATE: “Every accusation is a projection” is more universal than some of you would like to admit.
By that part, I was referring to the people establishing the Julian Calendar, not the Gregorian. I’ve edited my comment to clarify that.
Don’t assume you know what is going through their mind, if you want to neutral and polite.
“I believe I’m fulfilling the duties of the job. What am I failing to get done?”
Focus on the requirements of the job and the fact that you’re meeting them.
It wouldn’t surprise me. I’m not sure it could possibly matter to us either way. Presumably we couldn’t break out of the simulation even if we knew about it conclusively. It would be interesting, but practically irrelevant.
Years exist. We decide what to call them. You and I agree to call this year 2024, but that’s only an agreement. Some people call this year 5784.
We call the system we use “The Gregorian Calendar”, because of a Pope named Gregory. That system is mostly the same as “The Julian Calendar”, with some important changes to make the calendar match the changing of the seasons better. In the Julian calendar, they decided to count the years starting from when they thought Jesus was born. They chose his birth year to be “The first year of our Lord”. We call that “year 1” for short.
The people who created that system (the Julian Calendar) didn’t understand 0. The year before “The first year of our Lord” was called “The first year before the birth of Christ”. We now call these “AD 1” (“anno domini”, because Latin) and “1 BC” (“before Christ”). Since they didn’t understand 0, they didn’t call any year “0”. We have kept the tradition, because reasons.
Some other systems have relabeled the year before “AD 1” as year 0, but that’s not how the Gregorian Calendar works, and that’s the calendar that you and I have been taught to use.
Enjoy! “I’ve chosen to find it charming.”