Cris

Get a boyfriend instead. Problem solved. 🤷‍♂️

Thank you, that’s helpful to know!

Yep, there’s one called syncthing-fork that’s been around quite a while I think, lemme go grab a link

Edit: https://f-droid.org/packages/com.github.catfriend1.syncthingandroid/ :)

I haven’t followed whether the project has made any comment on the upstream being discontinued, because right now I’m not using it. But if you reading this depend on syncthing, it might be worthwhile to go check, and maybe donate to help them keep it going :)

Can we maybe skip calling people “females”…? 😅

If you meant people who are biologically female since trans women would be more likely to understand male anatomy jokes, “female folks” or “afab folks” would probably feel a bit less like they’re being reduced to their sexual organs, and are being seen more as people, which folks always appreciate :)

Lmao, a work of art. If anyone wants to tell me the context for this gif I’d be super curious to hear it. It looks like some reality show like survivor…

ಠ_ಠ

What in the everliving fuck…

Thats a really good image 😂

Its okay bud, well get you warmed right up I got the fire going, want a hug? We have hot chocolate?

I don’t presently have one, and when I do it’ll probably be like waiter at waffle-house or something 😅

Why do you ask?

Are you positive that’s entirely correct? There are definitely disorders who’s definitions are shaped by their impact on others, like Munchausen’s by proxy, but I’m not a psychologist or psychiatrist. I could see it being described as a form of impairment to an important area of life to not being able to form healthy non-destructive relationships, and I think impairment is one of the criteria by which a disorder can be defined

I could also just be wrong though, and it’s a fair point regardless. Perhaps “defined by” wasn’t quite the right way to word things

Edit: upon rereading I didn’t actually say it was “defined by”, but the wording is still imperfect. I can only be but so anal about technicalities though; communicating my point is more important

Thank you very much. As someone with a lot of challenges with mental illness myself, it’s something I think about a lot.

I think the important thing is really just that mental illness doesn’t shield you from accountability for how you impact other people, and for a personality disorder that primarily manifests in traits that harm people, that’s a hard thing to reconcile with that person’s merits. Doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t, just that because you are still responsible for potentially hurting people, and have a disorder that makes you very likely to do so, those things will be very hard for people to square.

Another example is paraphilias. Paraphilias can include things like pedophilia, which manifests in a desire to do something that would subject someone to profound amounts of trauma, the likes of which most of us couldn’t even begin to appreciate. Can someone with such a paraphilia be a good person who is kind, and does not harm people in that way? Yes. Can that person be largely a good person in most contexts, but cause people enormous harm as a result of their paraphilia? Also yes.

In some ways we are all people with conditions that affect who we would be otherwise, and in other ways we are all just people, and conditions are used descriptively to communicate the traits that we have.

At the end of the day, the thing that matters is how you treat people. If you cause people harm, it might be more understandable given the context of a personality disorder, but it doesn’t absolve you of any responsibility. And if you don’t, then you haven’t done anything wrong. And I mean that for each moment in time, each interaction. Humans are messy and complicated, and generally ideas like “good person”, “bad person”, are reductive.

I’m sorry you feel trapped or defined by your diagnosis. That can be a painful place to be. I have a close friend with borderline personality disorder who has at times felt similarly. Only thing that matters is whether you’re an asshole. Only thing that ever has mattered, only thing that ever will.

Edit: just want to be very clear- the fact that it will be hard for people to engage with you purely based on your behaviour in a given interaction is not something you deserve. Its the actions and how they affect people that count, even if I can empathize with why it’d be hard for people

Yeah, I had sort of assumed 😅. I appreciate the editor blessing us with more snoot

Why he’s 75% snoot!

Is this even a shitpost? 😅

I have a severe circadian rhythm disorder (combined with a handful of complicating mental health conditions) and unfortunately can’t be awake during the day 😅

if I manage to move my schedule it just drifts back to being extremely late, and when I’ve had jobs I’ve progressively found it harder and harder to be awake when work starts, or when I was in highschool, struggled more and more to get up for school until I was just missing school a lot of the time (though that was also in part because I was going through the first real mental health episode I’ve experienced and didn’t know what to do about it or how to cope)

The not working is mostly due to social anxiety and mental health hurdles with applying and interviewing, but I do think that’s changing. I’ve been kinda stuck for a while though.

A friend group of mine who all rented a house together used to do movie nights and I really enjoyed it :) we all took turns picking stuff and I haven’t seen almost any movies so I had a great time. Unfortunately they don’t live together anymore and some moved away. That friend group is a lot more split up a now, so I was thinking about stating a new one :)

Edit: lmao, who downvoted me for explaining my medical condition, what a dick

Yeah, I am. Unfortunately both in terms of regular social contact and in terms of romance.

Social contact because I’m not awake during the day, which makes it really hard to get together with people, or get out of the house (or see the sun). And romantically just cause I’m not healthy enough for it and so not pursuing a relationship, even though I miss it.

I go to a regular social event once a week on Mondays and try to keep up with my friends. I’m still trying to figure out what I might want to change. Going to more social stuff, even though I find it a bit overwhelming? Getting a job would certainly help. Once I have a job, maybe I could get a dog? It’d be nice to get to interact with another living creature in my physical vacinity at least once a day.

I’ve kinda thought about trying to do small group get-togethers with my friends. I used to really enjoy doing a regular movie night. Or perhaps try to do something for my birthday. I’ve even thought about trying to start a group of some kind for folks awake at night since it can make socializing and getting out pretty hard

That was interesting, thank you for sharing!

Thank you for discussing with me too, I really appreciate it. I feel very strongly that because there are so few people here compared to mainstream platforms, we all have a much greater impact on the culture of this space. I want to be a part of it being as sincere and kind as possible.

We don’t completely agree, and that’s okay, I appreciate you sharing your perspective with me. I hope you have a lovely day my friend. If you celebrate it, happy Thanksgiving!

Thank you very much for taking the time to type out all of that information, I really appreciate it! I would very much like to see the two party system overturned, and understanding the issue better helps me consider which (probably crappy) route has the best chances.

I don’t think that saying someone wants a third relevant party means they’re intrinsically acting in bad faith. I absolutely understand seeing it as completely unrealistic. It probably is. I just also have a really hard time seeing this system yielding the kind of represtation this country needs, and that’s something I desperately want for this country.

In an economy, only two companies vying for control of a market is a duopoly, and it’s unlikely between the two of them that they’ll do a good job of serving consumers. There’s no meaningful competition driving parties to really offer compelling solutions to the public, because both parties have to option of just saying “well I’m not THAT guy over there, the one you hate”

I’d like to see the first past the post voting system replaced, but l worry neither party will ever offer the public the option to replace it if it threatens their control. Obviously republicans never will. But I also don’t really believe another party can win until it’s changed.

Its an intensely frustrating status quo. And I can’t help but look backwards desperately wish we could have had bernie instead of Hillary. :(