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Cake day: June 24th, 2023

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  • Kids! I thought when I was a kid I wanted them no matter what. In my early twenties I decided I only wanted kids if I could find the right partner. Now I have one. Sometimes my partner is great, sometimes he sucks. I don’t care, because my kid is great. She’s a joy to be around and gives my life purpose in a way I didn’t realize was possible. My whole purpose is just to enjoy reading her a story in that moment. My whole purpose is to feed her when she’s hungry. My whole purpose is to look into her eyes. My whole purpose is just to enjoy the moment I’m in, and she accidentally causes me to be fully present so often. It’s amazing.

    That said, I would say if you’re not 80% sure you want kids, don’t. Figure out what would get you to 80% first. Financial stability, a good partner, a solid career field, etc.






  • I grew up in an almost 3000 sq foot home with only 5 kids. I know you were using hyperbole with the ten kids thing, but it was cramped with 7. Always sharing bedrooms, never actually getting your own space, no playing music without bothering someone, hard to do homework when your sister is practicing her oboe. If you want a dining room table that fits everyone and a living room where your family can stretch out for a movie, you need the space. (Also I grew up in Florida so no basement or attic. Not sure how those figure into sq footage)







  • My ex (though really his mom i guess) taught me you can just run a half empty dishwasher. I grew up without a lot of money, so we weren’t running the dishwasher until it was full (big family, so pretty often). But when you’re one or two people, it never fills up so I was just hand washing dishes, hating my life. They ran the dishwasher every night no matter how full or empty it was. At 9pm, the dishwasher started. It’s stupid to say it changed my life, but now I just run it whenever I want. I also run my washing machine all the time and folding half loads is so much better, I no longer hate laundry.


  • Morally impossible? Geez I guess we should just get ready for more genocide with a side of human rights violations all over our shores too. Sorry, women, black Americans, and immigrants, Democrats would rather make a show of their morals than pick the much much much lesser of two evils. Big picture doesn’t matter here.

    If we had to pick a candidate who aligns with all our morals, no one would ever vote. Vote for Biden, and then to make a difference fight on your local level(city) for ranked choice voting! Once you win that fight, try to get it enacted in your county. Do not waste your vote on Trump over this. That’s what staying home or voting independent will do, and once Trump wins, you’ll regret it. (Trust me, I fucked up and voted independent in 2016 for my “morals” Never again.)




  • Honestly I think if you gave them the same choice, they’d pick bear too. Bear or a man who has on average 75% more muscle mass and 90% more strength than you. He is also 93% likely to be gay. Now you might be in the forest with your nice and normal gay neighbor and have a totally lovely time! Or you might get one of those gay priests who just want to rape you repeatedly. Which do you pick? Man or bear?

    That’s a lot closer to the choice women are making.

    Source on average difference of male to female strength https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2020/02/200205132404.htm