I want to be respectful but if they say they don’t care what pronouns I use for them, that feels like it puts the decision on me to choose what to call them and I guess I would probably default to “they” because choosing a gender for them feels weird… am I wrong?
The pronouns you use don't affect who I am, they simply express your perception of me. I suppose I'm just an asshole who doesn't care who or what you think I am. I know who I am regardless of what you say. Call me whatever makes you comfortable.
That doesn't make you an asshole