This isn't about grieving, just assuming the complete absence of your family and all the inheritance.
I'd pay off my medical debt and go back to university. I'm so tired. I just want to learn and stop struggling. I don't even qualify for my own debt so I have to have it in someone else's name, being bound to an abuser…
i would hope the debt doesn't pass-down. whatever the estate(s) can pay, gets paid. then that's it, and any remaining gets written-off.